Baby Non-Essentials

What do you really need to bring home baby? Countless sites have covered the essentials: clothes, diapering supplies, bathing supplies, a few health and safety essentials, food to eat and the related items, place to sleep, place for their clothes, and a car seat*. I'd recommend finding an essentials list on a baby site/forum or view my list rather than an essentials list on a retailer. The retailer wants you to buy the items and considers a lot more essential than other lists.

Mother and Child

Really, you don't need a lot to bring baby home from the hospital, they don't care about toys, books, exersaucers, play gyms, mobiles, quite yet. They don't even need the scads of clothes that you think they need. Every baby is different obviously, but they don't generally get really drooly until about 3 months. So, unless your baby is spitting up a lot or has explosive diapers, you won't be changing their clothes out during the day.

There are a few things that I have that I would have never considered essential, but would have to replace if something happened to them. These are normally on non-essential lists but are essential for me. Hear me out on my explanations before you judge.

My Non-essential Essentials

  1. Wipes warmer - We have the Munchkin Warm Glow Wipe Warmer, it's the ultimate non-essential that made my life easier. Before babies are sleeping through the night you are getting up often to change and feed them. Everytime I wiped my baby girl the cold wipe would startle her and she would start crying. It would take an hour to change her and feed her and settle her back to sleep. As a new first time mother I thought all this was normal and just did it. I received the wipes warmer for a baby shower gift. We started using it and no more startle or crying, and what was once an hour ordeal took 20 minutes at the most. It has a night light, which is all but useless. If you can improvise with a warm water bottle or something else, try it, see if it makes a difference for you. If you live down south where it's always warm you are probably laughing at me. I live in North Dakota and it's cool or downright frigid here a lot! All I know is if ours breaks, I'm buying a new one.
  2. One-Hand Operable Diaper Disposal System - We have the Genie II Elite, I just step on a pedal on the bottom and drop the diaper in. Whether you just use a garbage can or a system, once baby gets squirmy one-handed operation makes life easier. We had an old Genie that we had picked up from a garage sale and sterilized, but it requires both hands to pull the top parts off, put the diaper in and twist. She rolls and squirms and skooches (totally a word!) around now, so I'd be moving her from her changing table to her crib or a blanket on the floor then disposing of her diaper every time. This just makes my life easier.
  3. Baby Swing - We have a Fisher-Price Ocean Wonders Aquarium Cradle Swing that I bought used, and hubby calls it her off switch. This is 100% non-essential, but having somewhere to put her down for a while where I knew she was safe and didn't make her start fussing made it easier to be a normal somewhat functioning adult her first few months. She was very congested and would fuss a lot if put flat on her back anywhere, I'd prop her and set her down but then I didn't feel comfortable stepping away for anything. I wouldn't buy this new, and I'd also consider smaller portable ones for less of a footprint. These are BIG and take up a lot of room. We did use the cradle motion when she was smaller and have now switched to the swing motion a couple of weeks ago.
  4. White Noise Machine/CD - What works to get baby to sleep is different for everyone, especially if they are in an overstimulated/overtired state. We have a sound machine that was given to us as a hand me down, I have no idea of the brand, but it clamps on to her top crib rail. It has 5 sounds but the one that sounds like waves works best. We also travel and camp quite a bit and sometimes spend long days outside of the house so we also got a Cloud B Gentle Giraffe. I also downloaded a Pink Noise For Baby Sleep MP3 from Amazon, we burned it to a CD for our bedroom, it is on my laptop, phone and MP3 player. Some babies like swaddling, some like white noise, some like vibrations, some like combinations. So, the white noise is an essential for me, it might be swaddlers for someone else. The MP3 is 89 cents, it's a cheap way to find out if that's what your baby would prefer.
  5. Playpen with Bassinet Insert - Ours is a Graco Pack 'n Play G Galore line which is now discontinued, however it's similar to this Pack 'n Play. For the first few days she slept in her crib, slept is using the term very, very, very loosely. Her newborn congestion was so bad that she didn't sleep well at all. After two days we set up the playpen with bassinet insert in our room and used it as a co-sleeper of sorts for 2 months. Now she is back in her bedroom in her crib, however the Pack 'n Play still gets use for camping and visits to family. Also, when my family visits if someone is sleeping in her room we can use the Pack 'n Play in ours and it has a changer built in so no need to interrupt family for diaper essentials.

*In the United States, we aren't allowed to leave the hospital with a baby without a car seat, even if you'll be putting baby into a pram and walking a few blocks to your home.

I love the conveniences of the modern nursery, but just because all that stuff is available doesn't mean we need it. Figure out what you need and what works for you. Just for a little comparison, this room was designed in 1933 by Bertha Sanders, found at the Domestic Interiors Database.

BABYSROOM-SANDER

Baby Essentials

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here are countless lists online of baby essentials, review them and figure out what will work for you and your family. Lean towards the lists that aren't on a retailers site. While they are helpful, they are also in the business of selling you everything on that list, so they will have a broader idea of what's essential. Look at them as more of a wish list and what to put on your registry as opposed to what you need.  This is kind of my bring baby home essentials list, with a few common items marked as optional.  I have my non-essential essentials list tomorrow, a few things that are considered non-essential by most that I would buy again if they broke.

Crib?  Who needs a crib? 


* indicates optional items

Furniture
  • Place for baby to sleep (crib, pack 'n play, bassinet, cosleeper, cradle, etc)
  • Mattress* (cribs generally do not come with a mattress, some choices may)
  • Changing table*
  • Dresser or armoire*
  • Glider/recliner*
Clothing
  • 4-6 onesies, short sleeves and no legs snaps at the bottom
  • 4-6 sleeping items, whether footie pj's or gowns or blanket sleepers (season appropriate)
  • 4-6 one-piece rompers or bottoms and tops (season appropriate)
  • 4-6 bibs or burp cloths (I used burp clothes exclusively until she could pull them away)
  • 2-3 bonnets or hats (the weight depends on the season)
  • 3-4 pairs of socks or booties
  • 3-4 pairs of hand mitts
  • 1-2 long sleeve cardigan or sweater or jacket (season appropriate)
  • 1 snowsuit or heavy bunting* (winter baby or cooler climate)
Note: Choose simpler clothing with snaps or zippers over buttons whenever possible.  Tiny buttons on tiny garments are frustrating to deal with and velcro will have a tendency to catch their socks in the laundry.  Ruffles and pleats and all the little details are cute, but are very difficult to iron on such a tiny garment.

Linens
  • 2-3 crib sheets
  • 2 mattress pads
  • 3-4 receiving blankets for swaddling
  • 1-2 heavy stroller blankets* (winter baby or cooler climate)
  • 1-2 midweight blankets* (winter baby or cooler climate)
  • other crib linens* (bumper, pillows, comforter, dust ruffle, canopy)
Diapers

  • 1 dozen diapers per day (if cloth, your choice of prefold or not)
  • 8-10 diaper covers (if using cloth)
  • diaper pins (if using cloth)
  • Wipes or washcloths
  • Changing pad*
  • 2 changing pad covers*
  • 4-6 lap pads* (highly recommended, I always have 1 on the changing pad and 1 in the diaper bag)
Note: The actual number of diapers you will need will depend on how often you intend to do laundry, or go shopping.  If using cloth and intend to launder daily, you need 2 dozen.  If laundering weekly or are using a diaper service, you will need 6-7 dozen.  If using disposables, have 1 pack of size 1 purchased.  If you need a smaller size, they are sized based on weight, pick up a pack before bringing baby home. 

Bathing Items
  • Bathtub*
  • Baby wash or shampoo
  • Baby lotion or baby oil (I recommend Aveeno Baby Lotion)
  • 2 hooded bath towels
  • 3-4 washcloths
Note: A very common baby lotion has alcohol as one of its first ingredients and she had problems with dry, flaky skin.  We switched lotions and the problem went away, so we gave away the other.  We had been given 3 bottles of it, plus had bought one before she was born.  Hopefully, a baby with less sensititve skin is enjoying it now. 
 
Health Care and Nursery Items

  • Nail clippers
  • Nasal aspirator (I highly recommend a Nosefrida)
  • Thermometer
  • Soft bristled brush
  • Nightlight*
  • Baby monitor*
  • Clothes hamper*
  • Diaper pail or disposal system* (I recommend something you can operate one-handed)
  • Sound machine*
Note: I marked hamper as optional, but you will want a way to separate your clothes from their clothes for washing them.  You should not use fabric softener on the clothes and should opt for a dye free, fragrance free laundry soap, if you can.

Toiletries

Feeding Supplies

  • Lanolin (if breastfeeding)
  • Breast pump (if breastfeeding)
  • 4 larger (8-9 oz, varies by brand) bottles (if bottlefeeding)
  • Formula (if bottlefeeding or supplementing)
  • 4 - 6 four oz bottles with nipples
  • Bottle brush

Note: There are different nipples to control flow. If breastfeeding start with the slowest flow, this may require you to buy a slower flow than what comes with the bottle.  If bottle feeding, most bottles come with nipples at a level 2 which should be fine in the beginning.

Accessories*

  • Toys*
  • Books*
  • Stuffed animals*
  • Music Player* (MP3, CD, cassette, record)
  • Picture frames*
  • Wall decoration*
Note: All optional really, but this is what brings the personality to your baby's space.  I'm sure some of you are thinking I'm heartless for saying toys and stuffed animals such are optional, but really a baby doesn't care about toys and stuff for a little while.

Gear
Car seat
Stroller or pram*
Exercise gym/play mat* (for tummy time)
Swing and/or bouncy seat*

Note: Many hospitals in the United States will not let you take the baby out of the hospital without securing them in a car seat first even if you will be walking them home a couple of blocks away in a pram.  Like accessories there are a lot of items for this category, however these are the only few you may need/want to have to bring baby home. High chairs, baby seats, exersaucers, etc. aren't actually needed til much later.  I'll do an extras to put on your registry post later this week as well.  For all those things you may want later.

Monday Musings - Diller

Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing up is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing.
- Phyllis Diller

Dimples

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y baby girl has great big dimples. She also loves to nosh on her fingers! So while I'm trying to get a picture of her dimples and the smile that makes me melt, I inevitably get 90% of her eating her fingers, 9% of her one eyebrow cocked "What are you doing face?" and 1% of the smile I've been hoping to capture.

Eating Fingers

Think I'm exagerating? How about this grouping taken the next day, I never managed to get the smile and she was soooooo squimry.

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That's my baby girl, open mouth... insert fingers.

I thought for a while about going with a nickname, but I'm opting not to for now. Mainly, if she does have people google her when she is school aged and they somehow find out about the blog anyway, they're more likely to tease her with the nickname.

So, my baby girl's name is Kirsten. We opted for the Swedish pronunciation, which sounds like Keerstin.

Baby Bits

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fully intended to share all the bits as I got her nursery ready, then we got a call saying she'd be induced a week early. So, we kicked it into high gear and didn't quite finish in time with all the little things we needed to do before our baby girl came. I spent a few days after we brought her home adding a few butterflies to girl it up, we kept her nursery very neutral until she came home. Doctors have been known to make mistakes.

14 Weeks Yummy Fingers

For three months I was home with her, with every intention to begin blogging again. However, everything I could think of to write about was "baby, baby, baby"... I don't really want to be a "mommy blogger", it doesn't really fit with what my blogs theme and goals are. If, however, I'm not writing at all, that's not much of a blog either. Right now, my life revolves around my baby girl, and sorting and organizing the massive amounts of stuff she seems to require. I'm going to give in and do a bit of an organizing for baby series to get all these topics and bits out of my head and be able to move back to more adult topics as well. They'll start in August, in the meantime, I'll share a bit about my baby girl.

I'll start with a question for you, when you blog about your children, do you use their real names or a psuedonym? I have a nickname for my daughter, but I doubt it will fit her indefinitely. I also wonder if I should keep it to a psyuedonym for her privacy once school starts and friends possibly searching her name online.

fingers

Here's a pic from the day she was born, her fingers were so tiny, yet so long. She was born on "tax day", April 15, and was a little peanut, just 6 lbs 11 oz and 18.5 inches. Today people guess that she is 6-8 weeks vs the 14 weeks that she actually is. She has light brown/dark blonde hair and blue eyes, and is the prettiest baby I've ever seen. Of course I'm biased, but I'm terribly smitten with her and count my blessings every day that she's in my life.

14 Weeks Camping Cooling Off

I went back to work 2 weeks ago full-time, and every day is a struggle. However, that's what I need to do for our family right now. I'm a full-time working mom, but in the interest of full disclosure... something had to give. That's right, I can't do it all and I have the utmost respect for those who can. I have a lovely woman who comes to my house once a week to vacuum, dust, clean my bathrooms and kitchen counters. Maybe one day I can go back to trying to do it all, but for now I had to give up something and was more than happy to give up the cleaning aspect of housework. Yes, I write a blog that has a heavy focus on homemaking, and I gave up the house cleaning. I still have to keep an organized picked-up (mostly) house to make it as easy as possible for her. I'll still have to do Spring Cleaning and Fall Cleaning and yardwork and have plenty of things to write about. However, toilet bowl cleaner will no longer be something I'll be making a recommendation for, not that I did before.

Happy St. Patrick's Day

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y dear, dear friends, I have been away from you all for so long. What was intended to be a short hiatus, turned into a long vacation indeed. I've been in hiding a while, but it's time to dust off the welcome mat, put the coffee on and invite you all in to catch up.

The big news, as I've eluded to many times in posts and comments on your blogs, we are adopting and have been waiting for many years. Well, we are currently getting our nursery ready for a baby girl due at the end of April. So, I'll post photos while I'm preparing all of the little changes we make here and there. I absolutely adore the couple that chose us, they are very sweet and are allowing us to participate in quite a few of the pregnancy related activities, like ultrasounds.

Happy St. Patrick's Day! Anyone have any corned beef tips to share? I'll be trying my hand at it for the first time this evening.

St Patricks Day